The conditioned personality—called attabhava in the Buddha’s teachings–is the locus of most of our pain: tangled relationships, painful memories, dysfunctional patterns of behavior, and other formations that rush through this life. The Buddha taught that the conditioned personality is a tangle that can be untangled: gradually, patiently, with care. The horse that the conditioned personality rides on is the root self of becoming, or bhava. The process of becoming is the most basic result of elemental clinging. Conditioned personality is a subset of this root process of becoming. This Insight Dialogue program provides a window into these two processes—attabhava and bhava—and points to a common theme of untangling. The personal is neither denied and rejected, nor is it clung to. The root process of becoming becomes familiar in the light of insight practice, and is engaged with skillfully in the untangling project with care and compassion.