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Attachment and Non-Attachment: The Dharma of Relationship
Dates: Feb 19, 2021 - Feb 21, 2021
Online Course

Instructor(s): Chris Crotty, Julia Barry

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One of the basic tenets of Buddhist practice is that attachment causes suffering. Western psychology, on the other hand, promotes secure attachment in relationship as central to physical, emotional, and psychological well-being. 

This program explores the ways we can integrate our need for deep connection in relationship alongside our wish for the liberating happiness espoused by Buddhist teachings. How do we resolve this paradox? How can meditation help us achieve greater ease, skill, and satisfaction in our relationships? How can relationship challenges deepen our understanding of the Dharma? 

In this program, we will explore Buddhist teachings on impermanence and not-self, as well as attachment theory, which addresses how our early childhood relationships inform our adult views and behaviors. We will practice insight meditation and heart practices to observe and skillfully respond to attachment conditioning in all types of relationships (intimate, professional, familial, friendships), and learn to use mindfulness to transform the difficult somatic and mental states associated with attachment habit patterns. 

The format will include meditation instruction, Buddhist and Western teachings on attachment, and relational mindfulness practices. We are all in relationship, whether it be intimate partnership, family, friendship, or community – all are welcome and encouraged to attend this program! 


Online Course: Our intention is to build sangha and provide meaningful virtual interactions with each other and teachers in our online courses. When registering for an online course, please note that you should plan to commit to attending all scheduled sessions. While participants are asked to commit to participating for the entire retreat so we can weave a deep sense of community together, those in the Pacific time zone are invited to join after the early morning meditation session if it creates a more manageable schedule. 


The schedule of Zoom meetings for this course (shown in US Eastern Time) is as follows:


Friday, February 19

6:30 – 8:30 pm, Opening Session

Saturday, February 20

7:30 – 8:00 am, Meditation 

10:00  – 12:00 pm, Morning Session

4:00 – 6:00 pm, Evening Session

7:00 – 7:45 pm, Meditation

Sunday, February 2

7:30 – 8:00 am, Meditation

10:00 – 12:00 pm, Closing Session 

Please check the time of the group meetings in your timezone here, and please note that sessions will not be recorded.


Registration fees for online courses are nonrefundable after the course start date. Cancellations prior to the start date of the course will incur a $25 admin fee. Thank you for your understanding.

  • Chris Crotty is a Dharma teacher in the insight tradition, a Buddhist pastoral counselor, and adjunct professor in alternative medicine. Practicing meditation since 1998, he has trained with Burmese meditation masters, western monastics of the Zen and Thai Forest tradition, and senior western Vipassana teachers. His main teacher is Sayadaw U Indaka. Chris is interested in the role of kindness and ethics in the development of wisdom, and as a basis for creating caring communities. Chris is the guiding-teacher at Boston Meditation Center.

  • Julia Barry is a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified Somatic Experiencing® and EMDR practitioner in private practice in Boston, MA. Julia has received training in psychodynamic psychotherapy with an emphasis on trauma and dissociation as well as adult and infant attachment.  Julia has studied metta meditation extensively with Venerable Sayadaw U Indaka on retreat in both the United States and Myanmar.  She also enjoys developing workshops at Boston Meditation Center with a focus on the intersection between Buddhist principals and Western Psychology.